"I Do, You Do,... We Do"

Many things in life are subject to wearing out. The spark and vibrancy once known between husband and wife tends to grow dim with all of the demands that life brings. I'm certain you won't have to think about it long. 

- Have your conversations become dull, boring, and typically predictable? 

- Do the negatives tend to outweigh the positives?

- Are you consumed with the schedules that YOU have created for your children?

- What are things you've wanted to talk about, yet you couldn't find the courage to initiate? 

Find the "pause" button and stop long enough to re-ignite your conversations with bridge builders - those things that will merge your thoughts, hopes, goals, and dreams. Take time to construct raw moments of fun and genuine laughter that will usher in the help and healing that both of you need. 

It's time to dream again. Regardless if you have been married 50 years, 5 years, or 5 months, there's no harm to be done in dreaming anew with your spouse. And picture albums are often a great catalyst for bringing back the fire - that is, the wanted, desired, awe inspiring joy of complementing one another in simply being together. 

So, let's map out a plan. Go ahead and fetch your wedding album and sit down together free from distractions and distance yourself from all electronics and social media. You are about to re-discover once again the love, excitement, and romance you shared back when problems, challenges, and struggles didn't exist. Wait a minute, they actually did exist! You were just so unwilling to allow them to wear you down and giving up,...well, that was not an option. You refused to lose and you knew TWOgether, you were destined to win.

As you open the album, or begin sifting through those pictures, narrow your focus onto your faces. Look at the smiles and find the anticipation that you possessed for the future. Zero in on the confidence you delivered every time someone delivered their "Congratulations" and/or "You two look so amazing!" Take a moment to extract the strength you had then and know you still have it. It's just been overlaid with so much "stuff" that has clouded your view of one another. 

Summing it up: Do you recall those statements the minister had you repeat to each other on that special day? 

How about this one:

"I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part."

The question to ask yourself is, "Am I?"

The question to ask your spouse is, "Am I?"

If the response you receive isn't what you long to hear, then take the necessary time and steps NOW to connect, reflect and sincerely work toward a soul'ution. The journey is intended to be enjoyed, but it is not, and will not ever be free of the need to refresh the screen.

It's time for the two of you to enjoy each other and the journey,...again.